Monday, September 21, 2009
Mindless drivel...don't say I didn't warn you...
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Two things...
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Ramble, Ramble, Ramble...Hear This Mommy Ramble
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising multiple children with disabilities - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
If you can't say anything nice....
They seem like a completely wonderful, loving and stable family. I think that it is wonderful that they have such a large family. I have absolutely no problem with them having 19 or 25 kids. Really. I don't think they are freaks or crazy or stupid.
Yes, I know that MANY of you have a very different opinion of them and the chioces they have made. But my questions are these...Why do you care? What is to you?
I have heard SO many ugly comments made about them. And I just don't get it. They aren't asking you to do it. They aren't condeming you for not doing it. They are just trying to live a life pleasing to God.
So please...hear me say that I don't really care how awful you think it is. I hate hearing Christians bashing them. It make us look bad folks...looks real bad! Remember when your momma used to say.."If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." Well, now would be a great time to put that into practice!!
I will now return you to your regularly scheduled programming!